Far too often it seems that men complain about how women are complicated, fickle and mysterious creatures that they will never understand and can never please. Finding the right gal can be a troublesome affair for many guys.

It isn’t all hopeless though. Dating doesn’t have to be so rigorous and strained as some people make it out to be. Women aren’t so mysterious. Just stick to these guidelines and the first date could end up being the start of something very special.

The perfect first date should be exciting. It should be fun and flirtatious and light hearted. Don’t make it out to be more than it really is. Taking that in account, know that grabbing a mocha at Starbuck’s really doesn’t cut it. Going on a date means you fetch your date at her place and take her out for dinner or a show.

A considerate man will make plans in advance. This doesn’t mean you have to spend a month planning that first date. That would simply be foolish and frankly obsessive. It simply means you should have something thought out; if it requires a reservation make one. Women like to be treated like they’re busier and bigger than they really might be; they like a fuss to be made about them. Make plans and then add to the significance of the date by building up the anticipation.

Don’t insult your date by taking her to some gauche and cheap bar or chain restaurant. You want to make your first date special so don’t be afraid to spend a little time making plans. Don’t be cheap either–that’s extremely unattractive especially on a first date.

Communication is an important part of any relationship at any stage. Remember to call your date to confirm. Don’t ring her at the very last moment; your date won’t appreciate this at all. A girl doesn’t like to be kept in suspense. It’s common courtesy to call. And it’s really an easy thing to do too. So do it.

Don’t be late. Punctuality is good form. Being late shows your date that you don’t value her time. Besides if you are late you’re already jeopardizing your date. It simply looks bad and your date won’t be happy. If you know you’re going to be late, again, pick up the phone as soon as you can.

Show her you like her. Signal your attraction immediately, don’t keep it to yourself. Every girl likes to be flattered. Don’t be too profuse. Laying it on too thick will only cause irritation. But do toss out a ‘you look good’ or ‘nice shoes’. It’s an easy point to score.

Women spend a lot of time and a fair amount of cash in preparing for a date. They go to their hair dresser’s and get manicures. Grooming is expensive. Pick up the check, your date has already shelled out a small fortune just to be there.

If you find that the date isn’t so great, be kind yet firm. Say something along the lines of, thanks for coming, it was nice meeting you. Don’t say you’ll call when you know you won’t.

If you want another date, seal the deal. Walk her to her place. Tell her you had a great time and you want to see her again.

Jayde Johanssen understands the confusion that can happen with men dating. This is why she offers online dating advice for men, to help encourage more harmonious dating experiences