Are you a possessive and jealous person in your love life? You are not alone but it is a really big problem if you are. Jealousy and possessiveness is a sure fire way to destroy any relationship. The message you are giving to your partner is that you do not trust them and this is a really bad thing to say to someone.

Ask yourself a simple question to see if you may be insecure in your relationship: You are out for the night with friends and you walk in to a bar to find your partner talking to an ex. They are laughing about something. How do you react?

a)Would you drive to their house and just check that they are ill and that they stayed in?
b)Say well I hope you feel better soon and tell them you might see them tomorrow if they feel a bit better?
c)Wish them well then make plans to go out with other friends?

Clearly ‘a’ would not be a good option, firstly because you would make a fool out of no one but yourself and secondly, you would possibly reforge a bond between your partner and the ex so making the situation worse! Ideally you would just get on with your night out. This is what a secure person would do.

There is a reason that you are insecure in this situation but it may be something that goes all the way back to sometime in your childhood and it just keeps resurfacing. You probably won’t even remember what actually started it but it will be somewhere in your mind. It could even go back to your first school yard crush. You need to find out what it is and come to terms with it otherwise you may spend the rest of your life as an insecure, possessive and jealous person.

A great way to explore your inner thoughts is through simple a self hypnosis technique. Take time out for yourself and work out why you are jealous and possessive in your relationships.