If you need some advice on how to get your ex back, then you’re not alone. While I’m sure that there are some amazing success stories out there, the fact of the matter is that most of us just don’t end up with our first boyfriend or girlfriend. And you know what else? Most break ups aren’t all that clean, either. Usually, one person wants to get back together with the other.
So, what causes two people to not want to be together anymore, and more importantly… what can you do about it?
And yes, the common reasons for breaking up tend to differ in both men and women. However, there are similarities as well. Let me go ahead and break it down for you by gender, just so that we’re on the same page.
We’ll take a look at why men tend to check out of a relationship first. (Not because of any secret sexist agenda; I actually flipped a coin. But I’ll get on to the women in a minute!) A man is basically all about his ego. It’s what makes him feel like a man. A man needs a healthy ego to feel secure in a relationship. The minute he stops feeling like a man on a consistent basis, his feelings will start to change.
Women don’t care as much about their ego as a man does. Still, a woman definitely has her needs. For a woman to feel that she wants to be in a relationship for the long haul, she must feel appreciated and feel that she is the apple of her man’s eye. She can’t feel like some casual girl or business partner. A woman needs to feel like a princess or a queen, and when she does, she will never want to leave!
Now some people may look at this and think “nope, that’s not the reason my ex wants to be apart… they told me a completely different reason.” I can’t go too in depth because this is not a psychology journal, but trust me when I say this all boils down to human psychology.
Both men and women are emotional creatures. Therefore, we act based on our emotions first, not our logic. But when we try and explain our emotional actions in our language of choice… we don’t always know how to. That’s why the reasons that people give for wanting to break up are often so vague, and, as it turns out… completly false or incomplete.
So when your ex tells you why they wanted to break up, it is often smoke and mirrors. Your ex is not intentionally trying to lie to you, but because of the sensitive nature of the subject, their brain will make it “easier” on the both of you through deception.
To get your ex back, you will have to stop doing the wrong things that drive them away and start doing the right things that will reattract them. They may have lost attraction for you for the time being, but it is not a lost cause. You have attracted your ex to you before, and you can do it again!
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